Counselling after Breakups, Separation & Divorce

for Women, Queer Folks, Neurodivergent People & Adult Children of Immigrants (18-55)

in Ontario, Nova Scotia and Alberta

Endings are never just endings…
They create space for us to grieve, for our identities to shifts, and for us to experience liberation!


And for many of us, especially women, queer folks, neurodivergent people and adult children of immigrants – endings can also be invisible reckonings.

You may be moving through the end of a partnership that others don’t understand, minimize or even acknowledge.
You may be carrying heartbreak alongside survival – trying to stay functional while your inner world feels upside down.

 

Breakups Are More Than Just Romantic Loss

When a partnership ends, it can unravel more than shared plans. It can pull at:

  • Your sense of self and safety

  • Your relationship to home, family or belonging

  • Your body, nervous system and emotional energy

  • Your connection to sexuality, touch or trust

  • Your role in a culture, community or partnership dynamic that once gave you structure

Whether it was a breakup, separation, or divorce – it was still an attachment.

And now you’re left with pieces to hold and a life story to rewrite.

At the Intersections: Why It Can Feel Even More Complex

You might be:

  • A queer person grieving the end of your first openly affirming partnership

  • A neurodivergent partner who built your routines, regulation and identity around someone else’s patterns

  • An immigrant who lost not just a partner – but immigration security, community or cultural belonging

  • A woman taught to stay, even if staying meant shrinking yourself

  • Someone who is grieving in silence because the world didn’t see your relationship as “real enough” to mourn

And you’re likely still managing life: work, caregiving, trauma histories, systemic pressures – all while trying to heal.

What Therapy Can Offer

You don’t need to rush your recovery.
You don’t need to “learn a lesson” right now.
You just need space – to feel, reflect, unravel and re-anchor.

In counselling, we can explore:

  • The emotional weight of separation – even if it was your choice

  • Grief, rage, numbness, relief, confusion (or all of the above)

  • Navigating loneliness and identity loss after a long-term partnership

  • Boundaries, self-trust and repair work, especially if you felt that you had ignored red flags or lost yourself in the partnership

  • Processing relational trauma, betrayal or abandonment wounds

  • Rebuilding self-worth, routines and safety in your body, especially if the partnership was toxic or unhealthy for you

  • Exploring gender, queerness or neurodivergence outside of a relational identity

This is not about “getting over it”…
It’s about moving through it – gently and honestly, at your own pace.

You Are Still Whole — Even in This

Breakups aren’t failures. Divorce isn’t shameful.

You are not broken for grieving deeply. You are not wrong for feeling relief. You are not too much for needing time.

You’re allowed to grieve. You’re allowed to be angry. You’re allowed to begin again.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • I provide counselling to women, queer folks, neurodivergent people, and adult children of immigrants between the ages of 18 to 55. If you see yourself reflected in these lived experiences, you're warmly welcome here.

  • I’m a Registered Social Worker (RSW) in Ontario, Nova Scotia, and Alberta, and can provide virtual counselling to residents of those provinces.

  • My fee for individual counselling is $180/hr.

    This rate allows me to continuously offer $100 discounted spots to make therapy more accessible for students and folks who are unemployed or precariously employed.

  • I’m a white-passing, Middle Eastern / Southwest Asian, bisexual, cisgender, neurodivergent woman and a first-generation immigrant and settler who came to Canada as a refugee during childhood. I've personally lived through trauma, immigration and displacement, mental illness, divorce, chronic illness and chronic pain – all of that informs how I show up in my work.

  • At its core, my approach is:

    • Trauma-Informed

    • Anti-Racist and Anti-Oppressive (ARAO)

    • Intersectionally Feminist

    • Neurodivergent-Affirming

    • Queer-Affirming

    • Sex Positive

    • Harm-Reduction-Based

    • Strengths-Based

    That means I honour the ways people’s identities, lived experiences, and cultural contexts shape their needs, relationships and healing process. I centre your strengths, capacity, and values – and work towards change that is realistic, sustainable and grounded in your actual life.

  • It means I don’t follow a one-size-fits-all model. I draw from various therapeutic modalities, schools of thought, and practical strategies – adapting them intuitively based on who you are and what you bring into each session.

  • Yes – I speak, understand, and read Farsi fluently. My sessions are primarily in English, but I can offer language flexibility for Farsi-speaking clients.

  • You get to decide what frequency works best for you. Most of my clients meet with me every 2 to 6 weeks. That gives you space to reflect, process and integrate what we talk about without feeling like therapy is “one more chore.”
    In times of burnout, crisis or transition, we might meet weekly for 1–2 months, if that feels supportive for you.

  • That’s completely okay. You set the pace. I won’t push you to talk about anything you’re not ready to explore. You’ll always have choice and control in our sessions.

  • You can count on me to:

    • Be fully engaged, honest and compassionate

    • Share new perspectives and practical tools

    • Offer relevant books, articles, podcasts, videos and other resources

    • Encourage reflection and sustainable action

    • Bring warmth, humour and balance to our sessions

  • You can book a free 15-minute phone consult to see if we’re a good fit. I’d be honoured to support you on your journey toward healing, clarity, and self-trust.